The title for this post came from an Aubrey Graham line. This, combined with the fact that this blog has nothing to do with the actual game of basketball, slightly blows me on several fundamental levels.
Last Friday, instead of pre-game excitement over the NFL conference championships, I logged in to Twitter and found myself reading a slew of tweets that could’ve started the biggest gender war since Susan B. Anthony n ‘em. What caused this uproar? Kobe and Vanessa Bryant’s impending divorce, his alleged $75 million shell-out to Vanessa, not including alimony and child support . I politely and diplomatically (I cant emphasize those words enough) asked what both sides thought about the situation, and several women responded (vented, however you want to see it) as such:
“it’s a lot of things that happen in life that just aren’t fair. like how men who sleep w mad women are so cool but when a woman enjoys sex w more than a couple guys she’s a hoe….and when a rich athlete cheats & has no prenup she gets half—- lol. there’s lots of things that aren’t fair, so lay off of Vanessa!”
“men fail to realize that when you mess w our most prized possession (or hearts) we (some) will go after yours (your money)”
“Why why y’all so passionate anyways? half y’all don’t got more than the women u lay up w so trust me, you prolly won’t have
“breach that contract there are penalties. like breaking any contract. get over it. he shouldve had a prenup”
“vows r a covenant relationship between u, ur mate n God. The moment u break that covenant u should pray material possessions r all that go. Sin. Painful child birth. Multiple langs. Fire. A flood. All consequences that came bc of a broken covenant.“
” I don’t feel sympathetic for Kobe at all. Maybe I don’t agree with giving 75mil and 3 mansions, but Vanessa Bryant certainly deserved a lump sum…People (mainly dudes) are sayin that Drake line “she wasn’t with him in the gym” True. She also wasn’t with him in the bed with all those women that got him into the place. What’s killing me the most are the men who are callin Vanessa a hoe & gold digger. She is his wife. Mother of his 2 kids & even stood by him when he was accused of being a rapist.”
“Im not a fan of giving up 50% of your assets that wasn’t acquired together due to divorce, but I also don’t support letting someone walk away scotch-free for consciously & selfishly breaking up a marriage. Pay up! And unfortunately for Kobe, in the state of Cali…that can be up to 50% of your assets. Maybe he’ll make better decisions next time.”“a) when you are valuable you protect your worth. he’s the fool for not having a prenup.b) “you wasn’t with me shooting in the gym” devalues a wife’s role.c) break my heart, i break your pockets –PERIOD.d) WHY is Vanessa getting 1/2 so surprising. It’s what happens when you get divorced. even if her 1/2 is MILLIONS.pea brained niggas are tripping. and are probably single. or dogs, themselves.”
“kobe got some secrets he willing to pay for…”“She only ‘reconciled’ after the rape for a bigger payout down the road’“If she knew about all these women, why didnt she leave earlier. #paperchasinhoe”“anytime a woman get a nice lump sum of money like that with no argument or prenump….its bonifide hush money.
#iwonderwhy“”B*itch, you wasnt with me shooting in the gym!” x about 1000, seriously.“As if she wasnt out here doing her thing on the side too. Smh”
“ Alimony doesn’t heal a broken heart.“